We often think we know everything about our closest family members, but unexpected events can reveal unsettling secrets that might damage even the strongest relationships. Today’s tale is about a lady who trusted her mother and mother-in-law. She was astonished to learn that they had covertly gathered against her, believing they could make life choices for her.
Her mother and MIL have always been important to Anna.
Anna, 33, wrote us a touching letter about her story. She has decided to cut all relations with her mother and mother-in-law and wants to know whether our readers would do the same.
Anna wrote, “Hi, Now I’ve Seen Everything! My life is complicated, so I’m sharing my story for help. I lack trust right now, so I hope your readers, especially those who have experienced a similar conflict, can offer an objective perspective. After my tale is published, I hope to read the comments and get some good advice.”
“So, I’m no contact with two of the most significant and cherished people in my life because my mom and my MIL united against me and started behaving in a very nasty way. I’ve always loved my mother, and we’ve had a wonderful and trustful relationship as long as I can remember myself. Since my dad passed when I was 3, my mother has raised me alone. My beautiful mother brilliantly played both parents for me, and I was never deprived of anything. I’ve always been protected by her. It hurt her so much when anyone ever offended or mistreated me, and she was always ready to punish people who were acting in a wrong way towards me.”
“My MIL has instantly become my second mom, after the very first time I saw her. She’s an extremely kind-hearted woman, and she has always been so supportive and loving to me that it made me think of myself like of a really lucky person.”
Anna ignored several red flags.
Anna adds, “Since my husband and I work full-time and have two kids, my mom and mother-in-law have been very supportive. They’ve consistently watched our kids while we work. I did see some odd behaviors. For instance, they appeared unduly interested in our family life, asking many questions about our private relationship and giving support where it wasn’t needed.”
I saw my mom glancing at my husband’s phone a few times. She stated she was without her glasses and believed it was hers. However, my mother-in-law behaved similarly. We caught her reading my phone and husband’s computer communications. This was wrong, but I felt it was the old lady’s interest and I tried to understand.”
Anna overheard her mother and MIL having an uncomfortable talk.
The reader continues, “Two months ago, I discovered that I was pregnant with our 3rd kid. My spouse and I were shocked by this news. Since we hadn’t planned for another kid, I was nervous about the pregnancy, but my husband was excited and persuaded me we could handle it. I finally agreed.”
“A few weeks ago, I came home from a doctor’s appointment and heard my mom and MIL crying. My mom said, ‘He made a terrible mistake, but we shouldn’t tell Anna. We must conceal it since the truth will kill her and her unborn child. Yes, we mustn’t harm their wonderful family, said my MIL. We need to keep him from seeing that lady again. Everyone makes errors.
“They clearly discussed me and my husband, mentioning his mistake. It made me anxious to discover the mystery they were hiding from me.”
Ann faced her mother and learned the awful reality.
Anna said, “I decided to talk to my mom first, and when I told her I heard them talking about my family, she went pale. She refused to speak about it, but I threatened to cease talking to her and not let her witness her grandchild’s birth if she didn’t. And she told me everything. I was devastated when I learned my spouse had cheated on me for 6 months. She stated he was cheating but demanded we keep the baby.
The worst thing was that my mom and MIL knew about his affair before I became pregnant, but they kept it a secret from me! They knew I was reluctant to have another child and that keeping the baby was a difficult choice for me, but they wanted to keep it a secret because I was carrying a baby with a cheater and liar!
I was so startled, furious, and upset that I didn’t want to see my hubby, mom, or MIL. I kept the kid and raised him alone. I haven’t spoken to them since and won’t let them attend my delivery. Am I correct, or should I forgive my mom and give her another opportunity to be a decent mother and grandmother?
We’re sorry Anna’s position is so difficult and deserves cautious attention. Anna must talk to her husband honestly before making any choices, in our opinion.
If you were Anna, what would you do? Is it fair for her to break off communication with her mother, MIL, and husband? Discuss in the comments.
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