Bennett Kaspar-Williams, who is transgender and lives in Los Angeles, is one of the minorities of transgender persons who have given birth to their children after undergoing the change. Because he identifies as a male and has gone through the process of gender transition, he was offended when the staff at the hospital where he gave birth referred to him as a “mother.” He filed a complaint about this treatment.
In 2014, when he was 37 years old, the individual, who had known for three years that he wanted to identify as a man, started the transition from female to male. The next year, in 2017, he began dating his future wife, Malik, who would later become his spouse in 2019. Bennett, who was still on testosterone medications, would need to discontinue the treatment that was intended to bring back his ovaries in order for them to be able to have children. The couple made the decision that they wanted their own children and began their fertility treatments.
As soon as the couple stopped using the medications, they did not have to wait very long to start a family. Cesarean delivery was the method that was used for Hudson. Bennett added that despite the fact that he had his breasts surgically removed, he did not suffer from body dysphoria about his lower half and chose to keep them in their natural state.
However, he stated that it wasn’t until he spent $5,000 to remove the breasts that he realized how much he wanted them to remain there. He said this realization came after he paid for the surgery to remove the breasts. “It actually opened up a lot of doors for me. “I had this sense that it was something that I needed to do, but I never had a self-hatred of my breasts like other trans women.” “I had this feeling that it was something that I needed to do.”
“I did not and now do not experience any dysphoria related to certain portions of my body.”
He said, “But I never would have imagined what a relief it would be to realize that they vanished. It felt like having a great burden lifted off my chest. When it comes to my transitioning, though, this is the end of the road in terms of medical options, bottom-half surgery is no longer an option. I do not have any dissatisfaction with that aspect of my physique.
Bennett noted that it took some time for him to be able to embrace the idea that he could one day have to give birth, and he said, “It wasn’t something I ever wanted to do until I learned how to separate the function of my body from any conceptions of gender.”
“Once I learned to think of my body as a tool rather than a collection of gendered stereotypes, I realized that I could both be the person I wanted to be and bring a child into the world,” she said. “I learned to think of my body as a tool once I learned to think of my body as a tool rather than a collection of gendered
He was successful in persuading others that, “No one can ever truly know if having children is feasible until you try – just because you were born with a uterus does not guarantee that you would be able to conceive or carry a kid,”
It is a fallacy to assume that all women are capable of becoming mothers, that all moms carry their own children, or that all persons who bear children are mothers. This is one reason why it is so crucial that we cease defining “womanhood” in terms of “motherhood.”
“None of those things are true everywhere in the world.”
After he stopped using the hormone medications, he did not have any outside assistance and said that “We had only been trying for a short period, so we anticipated the procedure to take longer than it did.”
“This was only about a week before we went into lockdown here in March 2020, so my good spirits were quite soon overtaken by dread about the pandemic and how I would keep myself and my kid safe.”
“The only thing about my pregnancy that made me feel down was the misgendering that took place while I was receiving medical treatment for my pregnancy,” she said.
Bennett said that despite the fact that he obviously had a barrel chest and even a beard, people often referred to him as a mother. He said, “The business of pregnancy – and yes, I say business because the whole system of prenatal care in America is centered on selling this image of “motherhood” – is so linked with the gender that it was impossible to avoid being misgendered.”
“Even though I had a full beard, a flat chest, and a’male’ gender marker on all of my documentation, people still felt the need to call me mom, mother,’ or ma’am,'” she said. “They just couldn’t stop themselves.”
“That was what caused me to feel depressed. There was nothing about being pregnant that made me feel “feminine.” In fact, I believe that having a kid while being isolated due to the epidemic and confronting all of the hospitals and appointments by myself was the single hardest and bravest thing I’ve ever done.
Children are awe-inspiring creatures that do not see the world with the same biases and prejudices that adults have, according to this saying.
“There is nothing more natural and normal for my son than having a Dada and a Papa, and when he is old enough, he will also come to know that his Dada was the one who carried him and took care of him so that he could come into this world,” I told my son. “To my son, there is nothing more natural and normal than having a Dada and a Papa.”